Supporting our Home Care Providers

In-home caregiving can be a taxing job physically, mentally, and emotionally. It can become even more difficult when the recipient of your care is a friend or relative.
It’s easy to forget that the people who give care need to take care of themselves too. Caregiver burnout is real, and it’s not an ideal situation for either the client or the care provider. As a caregiver, avoid overextending yourself by utilizing these strategies and resources.

1) Accept Your Feelings

Day in the life of family with four childs whom two are down's syndrome and autism

It’s entirely normal for family caregivers to experience many difficult emotions. Guilt, resentment, anxiety, burnout, grief, and disillusionment are very common among those caring for loved ones. It is important to acknowledge these feelings and not attempt to hide from them.

Difficult emotions for caregivers include:

Guilt: You may feel guilty that you aren’t doing enough as a caregiver to provide for your patient.
Grief: Providing care often comes with a number of losses. The loss of time otherwise spent, a future you had envisioned, and the loss that comes with caring for a terminally ill loved one.
Burnout: The exhaustion and stress that comes from being pulled in too many different directions. Very common among caregivers who also work and provide for their family.
Resentment: You may be angry with other family members or friends for not doing more to support you or the person you care for.

While it’s important for personal care assistants (PCAs) to acknowledge these feelings, it’s even more essential that you not keep them inside. Talking about your feelings and sharing experiences is the best way to handle these types of emotions.

Where to find emotional support for family caregivers:

  • Family members or friends
  • Church or other religious groups
  • Community caregiver support groups
  • Therapist or counselor
  • Specific disability or illness organizations

3) Don’t be Afraid to Ask for Help

All too often, caregivers feel they must go it alone. Don’t believe this. There are many resources available to assist family caregivers from becoming burnt-out from the stress of looking after another human. The first step is to understand what caregiver burnout is and admit when you need a mental health break.

Signs of caregiver burnout:

  • Withdrawal from friends and family
  • Loss of sleep or changes in sleep patterns
  • Irritability
  • Emotional and physical exhaustion
  • Feelings of hopelessness or helplessness
  • Getting sick more often

Support for caregiver burnout:

  • Ask family and friends to split time providing home care for a loved one
  • Adult day care or community activities can provide you with breaks from caregiving throughout the week and give your loved one a change of environment.